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Motherhood can leave you feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, emotional, restless, lost, or simply... different.You may love your children deeply and still miss parts of your old life.You may know you're not the same woman you were before motherhood, but have no idea who you're becoming.That's matrescence.Becoming Untamed is a journey through the emotional, physical and identity shifts of motherhood.You'll explore how to regulate, reconnect with your natural rhythm, move emotions through your body, understand your changing identity, and begin to live from what feels true now.You are not broken. You're becoming.

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This isn’t another parenting blog.It’s a home for the mothers who feel cracked open, rebuilt sideways, and somehow more themselves than ever — the ones who know motherhood is a full-blown identity awakening, not a checklist of “right ways” to cope.Here, we talk about the real stuff: the identity shedding, the nervous system rewiring, the feminine power you were taught to quiet, and the wild remembering of the woman underneath it all.Expect raw truth, regulation that actually works, and the kind of conversations that make you feel seen… and a little dangerous in the best way.If you’re done performing “good mother” and ready to rise as your real self, this is your corner of the internet.Welcome home, wild one.

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About Emily

Hi, I'm Emily.I'm a Matrescence Educator, Motherhood Mentor and the creator of Untamed Motherhood.I'm also a mum, a trained primary teacher and a woman very much in the process of becoming.Because that's what I think motherhood really is.Not something you eventually figure out, but a transformation that keeps unfolding.

It changes your body, your identity, your relationships, your priorities, your capacity and your sense of what matters.And somewhere in the middle of all that, you can find yourself wondering:Who am I now?

I created Untamed Motherhood because I think we need to talk about the woman, too.

We talk about pregnancy.We talk about birth.We talk about babies.But not enough about what happens to you when you become a mother.The identity shift.
The grief and the growth.
The changing values.
The things you suddenly can't tolerate anymore.
The parts of yourself that have gone quiet.
And the parts that are beginning to emerge.That's matrescence.My own experience of motherhood has taught me that becoming doesn't happen in one neat moment. It unfolds through birth, exhaustion, love, relationships, boundaries, changing values, joy, grief and all the ordinary moments in between.And I've learned that you don't have to find your way back to who you were before motherhood.You get to become.

What I believe

I don't believe mothers need someone else telling them how to be better, calmer, or more selfless.We need more space to understand ourselves.To listen to our bodies.
To make room for our emotions.
To reconnect with what makes us feel alive.
To question what no longer fits.
To trust ourselves.And to remember that we get to be whole people inside motherhood.That's what Untamed Motherhood is about.Through programmes, resources and 1:1 support, I create spaces for mothers to explore the woman they're becoming and find ways of moving through motherhood that feel more like their own.

A little more about me

My background is in primary teaching, so I love making big ideas understandable and practical.My work brings together matrescence, psychology, emotional regulation, identity, feminine rhythm, creativity and self-trust, alongside what I've learned through my own experience of motherhood.I'm not here to give you a perfect formula.I'm here to help you ask better questions, understand what's happening beneath the surface, and trust yourself a little more along the way.Because motherhood isn't about becoming less of yourself.It's about discovering who you are now.

You are not broken. You're becoming.

And you don't have to figure it all out alone.Emily xx
Matrescence Educator · Creator of Untamed MotherhoodRegulate. Rewild. Rise.

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A journey through matrescence.

Motherhood changes you.Not just your routines or your priorities, but your body, your emotions, your relationships, your identity and the way you see yourself.And yet, we're given plenty of information about pregnancy, birth and babies, and very little about what happens to the woman who becomes a mother.Maybe you love your children deeply and still miss parts of your old life.Maybe you feel more emotional, overwhelmed, disconnected, restless or easily triggered than you used to.Maybe you're not even sure what's changed.You just know that something has.Becoming Untamed is a journey designed to help you make sense of that transformation.You are not broken. You're becoming.

What is Becoming Untamed?

Becoming Untamed is a six-module self-guided journey through the lived transformation of motherhood.It brings together matrescence, emotional regulation, feminine rhythm, emotional expression, creativity, identity, values and self-trust to help you understand what's happening beneath the surface and reconnect with yourself along the way.The journey moves through three stages:REGULATE
Come back to safety, notice what's happening in your body and build ways to return when life gets messy.REWILD
Reconnect with your natural rhythm, emotional expression, creativity, movement and the things that make you feel alive.RISE
Understand the identity shift of motherhood, honour who you've been, explore who you're becoming and begin to live from what feels true now.Regulate. Rewild. Rise.Not as a checklist. Not as another thing to get right. As a rhythm you can return to.

This isn't about finding yourself again.

Because the woman you were before motherhood hasn't simply disappeared. And you don't need to choose between who you were and who you're becoming.Motherhood can bring grief and growth at the same time.You can love your children and miss your freedom.
You can feel grateful and overwhelmed.
You can want more space and still adore being a mother.
You can become softer in some ways and stronger in others.None of that means you're doing motherhood wrong. It means you're changing.Becoming Untamed gives you space to understand that change rather than constantly trying to get back to who you were before it.

Your Six-Module Journey

MODULE 1
REGULATE: Coming Home to Safety

Before we can reconnect with ourselves, we need somewhere safe to return to.You'll explore your nervous system, recognise the signs that you've moved out of your window of capacity, and begin building simple ways to create more safety, rest and empathy in everyday motherhood.You'll explore:✦ Fight, flight, freeze and fawn
✦ What safety and survival can feel like in the body
✦ Your core needs for safety, rest and empathy
✦ The 4-2-6 breath
✦ Simple ways to create moments of regulation in real life

MODULE 2
REGULATE: Building Your Way Back

Knowing you're overwhelmed is one thing. Knowing what helps you return is another.This week is about noticing your edges and building your own Safety Signal Stack so you have something practical to come back to when life gets loud.You'll create your personal Calm Map and explore how regulation can happen in the middle of real motherhood, not just when the house is quiet.

MODULE 3
REWILD: Awaken Your Feminine Rhythm

What happens when you stop overriding yourself and start listening to your own energy?This week explores rhythm, aliveness, creativity and the different seasons of your life.You'll begin noticing:✦ What gives you energy
✦ What drains you
✦ When you come alive
✦ When you're forcing
✦ What restores you
✦ What season you're actually inRewilding isn't losing control. It's losing the conditioning that's been controlling you.

MODULE 4
REWILD: Emotional Expression & Creative Flow

You don't have to hold everything together.This week is about learning to notice your emotions, feel them in your body and give them somewhere to go.You'll explore emotional expression through:✦ Movement
✦ Breath
✦ Sound
✦ Creativity
✦ Truth
✦ Colour
✦ Writing
✦ Simple everyday practicesYou'll learn why emotions don't always need fixing.Sometimes they need room.

MODULE 5
RISE: Who You're Becoming

The Matrescence Identity ShiftThis is the week where everything connects.You'll explore matrescence, the profound transition of becoming a mother and the many ways it can change your sense of self.You'll look at:✦ The identity shift of motherhood
✦ The parts of yourself that have become quieter
✦ The parts that are beginning to emerge
✦ The grief that can accompany change
✦ The growth happening alongside it
✦ How your values may have shifted
✦ What you're no longer willing to force
✦ Who you're becomingYou'll also move through The Bridge, a guided visualisation designed to help you honour who you were, release what no longer fits and make space for who you're becoming.You're not lost. You're in the middle of becoming.

MODULE 6
RISE: Living Untamed

This is where everything comes together.You'll bring Regulate → Rewild → Rise into your actual everyday life.Not another routine. Not another list of things to maintain.A personal rhythm you can return to when life gets messy.You'll create your Integration Map and explore what it means to:✦ Regulate when you need safety.
✦ Rewild when you need aliveness.
✦ Rise when you need to honour what's true.And then begin again. Because motherhood keeps changing.And so will you.

What you'll get

Inside Becoming Untamed, you'll receive:Six video lessons
Thoughtful, practical (and not too long) teaching you can watch when it works for you.Six guided audio practices
Including breathing practices, visualisations, reflection and integration journeys.Your Untamed Compass
A workbook to help you take the work beyond the screen and into your everyday life.Reflection + integration
Space to slow down and notice what's actually changing for you.Science Bites
Short, accessible explanations of the science behind some of the practices and concepts you're exploring.Bonus resources
Additional tools and exercises to help you go deeper where you want to.

How it works

Becoming Untamed is designed to fit around real life.There are no live classes you have to make. No deadlines. No catching up because you've fallen behind. No expectation that you'll complete everything perfectly.You'll receive access to the complete six-module journey and can move through it at a pace that works for you.Each week follows a simple rhythm:Watch → Explore → Reflect → IntegrateYou'll watch the week's lesson, work through your weekly audio and Untamed Compass, practise what you're learning, and then return to the end-of-week reflection once you've had some time to live with it.You can move through one week at a time, take longer when life gets busy, or return to practices whenever you need them.This is a journey, not another thing to keep up with.

Choose your way

There are two main ways to experience Becoming Untamed.Choose the level of support that fits your season.

Self-Guided

$197 NZDThe complete six-module journey, at your own pace.For the woman who wants the space to explore, reflect and reconnect with herself without adding another commitment to her already-full life.Includes:✦ Complete six-module programme
✦ Video lessons
✦ Guided audio practices and visualisations
✦ Untamed Compass workbook
✦ Reflection and integration exercises
✦ Science Bites
✦ Bonus resources

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Self-Guided + 1:1 Support

$597 NZDThe complete journey, with me beside you.For the woman who wants to go deeper and have personalised space to unpack what's actually happening in her life, her motherhood and her experience of becoming.Includes everything in Self-Guided, plus:✦ 3 x 45-minute private 1:1 sessions with me
Alongside the self-guided programme, you’ll have three private sessions with me to help you explore your own experience of matrescence, unpack what’s really going on beneath the surface, and connect the work back to your actual life.We’ll move through three stages:
REGULATE — understand where you are and what you need
REWILD — explore identity, expectations and the woman you’re becoming
RISE — integrate what you’ve discovered and create your own way forward✦ Personalised support across the six weeks
✦ Space to unpack what's coming up for you
✦ Support with reflection and integration
✦ A private space to talk things throughThis isn't about accountability or having someone tell you what to do.It's about having someone beside you while you work out what feels true for you.

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Which one is right for me?

Choose Self-Guided if...
You like moving at your own pace, want space to reflect privately, and don't need ongoing support to work through the material.Choose Self-Guided + 1:1 Support if...
You want personalised support, have things happening in your life that you want to unpack, or simply know you'll get more from the journey with someone walking beside you.There isn't a better option. There's just the option that fits you best right now.

Who is this for?

Becoming Untamed is for mothers who are somewhere in the middle of becoming.You might be:✦ Wondering where you went after becoming a mother
✦ Feeling different but not understanding why
✦ Struggling with overwhelm or feeling constantly "on"
✦ Missing parts of who you were before children
✦ Feeling disconnected from your body, creativity or aliveness
✦ Questioning old expectations around motherhood
✦ Noticing your priorities and values have changed
✦ Wanting to understand matrescence
✦ Ready to listen to yourself more honestly
✦ Wanting motherhood to feel more like your ownYou don't need to be at breaking point. You don't need to have a particular problem. And you definitely don't need to have it all figured out.You just need to be curious about what's happening inside you.

What this isn't

Becoming Untamed isn't a programme about becoming a perfectly regulated mother.It isn't about eliminating difficult emotions.It isn't about finding your way back to your pre-motherhood self.It isn't another list of routines, rules or things you should be doing.And it isn't about blowing up your life and becoming "untamed" in some performative way.It's about listening to yourself more honestly.Your body.Your emotions.Your needs.Your rhythm.Your values.Your truth.And learning how to live from that place, one choice at a time.

A final note...

You don't have to finish these six modules as a completely different woman. You don't need a huge breakthrough. And you don't need to have every answer.Maybe something simply makes more sense. Maybe you notice yourself sooner. Maybe you stop judging a feeling and get curious about it instead. Maybe you realise a value has changed. Maybe you finally give something you've been carrying somewhere to go. Maybe you begin to trust yourself a little more.That counts.Because becoming isn't about arriving. It's about continuing to listen. To notice. To adjust. To return. Again and again.You don't have to go back to who you were.You get to become.

Ready to begin?

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Meet Your Guide

Hi, I'm Emily.I'm a Matrescence Educator and the creator of Untamed Motherhood and Becoming Untamed.My own experience of motherhood has taught me that becoming doesn't happen in one neat moment. It unfolds through birth, identity, relationships, grief, growth, exhaustion, love, boundaries, changing values and all the ordinary moments in between.I created Becoming Untamed because I wanted mothers to have somewhere to make sense of that transformation.

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You don't need fixing. You need space to breathe.

A 7-day nervous system reset for mums who are tired of feeling like they're holding themselves together with a piece of string.Motherhood can be beautiful.And completely fucking overwhelming.The noise.
The touching.
The endless requests.
The emotional load.
The constant need to be "on".Sometimes it feels like there is no space left for you.And before you know it, you're snapping over the tiny things. The cup that isn't the right colour. The shoes that apparently cannot go on feet. The third snack request in twelve minutes.And then comes the guilt. Why am I reacting like this? What's wrong with me? Nothing. Your nervous system is overloaded. And you don't need another list of things you're failing to do.You need a way back to yourself.

This is where Untamed Glow begins

Untamed Glow is a 7-day nervous system reset created specifically for mothers.Not a self-care challenge. Not another thing to add to your already-full to-do list. And definitely not seven days of waking up at 5 am to journal, meditate and become a completely different woman.Because honestly... who has time for that?Glow works with the life you're already living. Small practices. Simple nervous system tools. Guided resets. Moments of coming back into your body when everything feels like too much.Seven days to begin noticing what your body is asking for, interrupt the spiral and create a little more space between what happens and how you respond.

You are not broken

You have been carrying a lot.And when your nervous system has been running on high alert for long enough, even the smallest things can feel enormous.A child crying.
Someone touching you again.
A messy house.
A full calendar.
A partner asking one more question when you've already answered approximately 47.Your body isn't being dramatic. It's communicating.Untamed Glow helps you start listening.

What we are doing together

DAY 1
Return to Calm
Start noticing where you are, what you're carrying and what calm actually feels like in your body.DAY 2
Safety Starts in the Body
Learn why telling yourself to "just calm down" rarely works, and begin creating safety from the inside out.DAY 3
Interrupting the Spiral
Catch the moment before overwhelm takes over and practise coming back to yourself.DAY 4
Energy Reset Rituals
Simple practices to shift your state when your energy feels scattered, flat or completely gone.DAY 5
Words That Soothe
Explore the way you speak to yourself and discover how language can either keep your nervous system activated or help you soften.DAY 6
Everyday Presence
Come back to the moment you're actually living instead of constantly rushing towards the next thing.DAY 7
Integrate Your Glow
Bring it all together and begin creating your own rhythm for coming home to yourself.

This is for you if...

✦ You love your children deeply but sometimes desperately need everyone to stop touching you.✦ You find yourself snapping and then wondering where that version of you came from.✦ You feel like you're constantly "on".✦ You know you need to slow down, but slowing down somehow feels impossible.✦ You crave more calm but don't want another complicated wellness routine.✦ You want to understand your nervous system instead of constantly fighting against it.✦ You want to feel more present in your own life.✦ You miss feeling like you.

And this isn't about becoming a calmer, better mum.

It's about becoming more connected to yourself.Because the goal isn't to never feel overwhelmed.
The goal isn't to become endlessly patient.
The goal isn't to perform some perfect version of regulated motherhood.It's learning how to recognise when you've left yourself... and knowing how to come back.

Why I created Untamed Glow

I created Glow from the trenches.From the days when my own nervous system felt like it was hanging by a thread.From the moments when something objectively tiny could send my whole body into overwhelm.From wondering why I knew all the things I was "supposed" to do...and still couldn't seem to do them when I was exhausted and touched-out and carrying everyone else's needs.I realised I didn't need more information.I needed tools I could actually use inside motherhood.So I created them.Untamed Glow is the reset I wish I'd had then.Something simple enough to reach for when your brain is full.
Something that meets you where you are.
Something that reminds you:You are still in there.You haven't lost yourself.You've just been buried underneath the noise.

7 Days

A little more space.A little more awareness.A little more connection to your body.A little more you.No overhaul.No performance.No waiting until life magically gets easier.Just seven days of beginning to come home to yourself.

Untamed Glow

Regulate. Rewild. Rise.Your rhythm starts here.NZ$47

Self-Guided + 1:1 Support

$597 NZDThe complete journey, with me beside you.For the woman who wants to go deeper and have personalised space to unpack what's actually happening in her life, her motherhood and her experience of becoming.Includes everything in Self-Guided, plus:✦ 3 x 45-minute private 1:1 sessions with me
✦ Personalised support across the six weeks
✦ Space to unpack what's coming up for you
✦ Support with reflection and integration
✦ A private space to talk things throughThis isn't about accountability or having someone tell you what to do.It's about having someone beside you while you work out what feels true for you.

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